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BTW, the first part of your post that relates to the work you are doing and the schedule you are holding, would be a good copy/paste edition to the popular "my life is stuck in neutral" thread as an example of what it takes to be highly successful. Unless you are born into royalty, it's hard ass work to create success and your post provides a brilliant glimpse into that. |
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04-26-2019, 10:46 AM | #4074 | |
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I have question for you gents. I am not on facebook, the girlfriend is. I have no idea what her facebook dwellings are like. She has acknowledged that she does get messages from random thirsty ass guys but she never responds. She has recently opened an instagram account and I have noticed the same guy starting to comment on her posts. At first it seemed harmless but today she posts a picture about smiling and how it shows the beauty of a soul. Within minutes homeboy posts the 100 emoji multiple times and then comments about how beautiful her smile is. I send him a message informing him that she has a boyfriend. Nothing crass, just a simple "Just a heads up, she has a boyfriend." He replies with "Oh okay, that's cool. I'm not being disrespectful we are just friends."
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04-26-2019, 11:10 AM | #4076 | |
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04-26-2019, 11:12 AM | #4077 |
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Oh he clearly likes my lady. I don't feel that I have anything to worry about on my end with her, but I'm not going to have homeboy openly flirting with her on social media. He can find someone without a boyfriend to flirt with. This will save him knuckle dents in his skull as well.
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04-26-2019, 11:20 AM | #4080 | |
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04-26-2019, 11:21 AM | #4081 | |
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It's going to happen no matter what, how you both deal with it can make a difference between an awesome relationship and one that goes south very fast. If a guy hits on a girl I'm with, I've learned to take it as a compliment, as long as she doesn't escalate it or seem interested. We've all done the same, hit on a girl to find out she is dating someone or married lol.
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04-26-2019, 11:30 AM | #4082 | |
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After 3 months of dating, her first assumption when you aren't spending every waking minute of the day with her is that you are cheating?? Some people are just so insecure. I dated a girl like that a number of years ago. At the job I had during that time I was not allowed to be on my phone, and everything was on video. She knew this but still accused me of stuff. She even went through my phone and computer (that was the last straw), and felt pretty dumb when she found absolutely nothing. I ended it and didn't feel bad, because I didn't appreciate that treatment.
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04-26-2019, 11:53 AM | #4083 |
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This right here.
Remember the conversation on here about who holds the upper hand when it comes to be emotionally attached? If you act on this or even show any interest...it shows her right away that you are pretty heavily invested. Don't get me wrong....I'm not saying to be a "cold" person....but there are other ways to show her you care about her and escalating what that dumb ass is doing is not one of them! You have sent him a message....that should be the end of it on your part. In the grand scheme of things, you stood up for your woman like any man would. Now it's up to her to do her part. I don't have any social media....my wife does. And she is very quick to let anyone know that she isn't on the market. She has even volunteered this information to me a few times before. Mostly I ignore it and say something like..." Cool...Hopefully he can afford you!" In the past it would lead into a conversation about how I would probably care less if she did leave...but now she knows it's just the way I am. And for some odd reason...it makes her more possessive towards me. Eventually she just made her account private.
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04-26-2019, 12:00 PM | #4084 | |
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thirsty ass dudes are everywhere man, these snakes will try to get in between. if you trust your girl (which i know you do) it won't do any harm to the relationship. it is annoying for sure. it's just a fact of life that these idiots will try to hide behind handles to drop the 100, fire and sometimes the water drops/eggplant emojis to "show intention" but given we all know how social media works to create these orbiters i'd say you're good. don't worry about it too much but as CT said - can you ever say you never hit on someone when they were in a relationship? |
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My wife is on FB and I'm not. Her account is on lock-down so random people cant find her and bother her. Also, because she's a doctor, she wants to be very careful about separating her professional life from her personal life. Needy, clingy, weird patients would be blowing up her personal FB page if they could find her. Now_Rudi The question is, to what degree is your girl's profile on FB open and discover-able? If anyone can stumble across her profile and "friend" her, why? Why does she need that level of attention for randos? If you haven't already, you really need to tell her you reached out to that dude and told him to back off. Otherwise, she finds out and suddenly you are the bad guy for interfering in her personal online life. I could see her feeling like she's a grown woman and doesn't need you to be the barometer for when someone is stepping over the line. |
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"ex of her husbands new wife" how does that exactly bring you into the equation?
also ~ the girl i broke up with? her sister is apparently in town with their mom. now i met the mom a while ago during mom's weekend, and clearly they don't know :I oops |
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Is this rhetorical? Her ex-husband was married within months of their divorce. This is the guy that his new wife was with before him. I imagine one of those gossiping type "Did you know this about her" type ways of finding a means to talk to my lady. It's all good though, I'm not upset about it nor am I worried that anything would happen. This guys profile on instagram reads like a dating site profile.
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