"look good only in the eyes of the owner" Isn't this the point.
I guess we ask, not because we need someone's approval or because we want to know which they would choose, but because we want to know why they would make that choice. It leads to points of view we may not have considered.
I agree that gold is a little "out there", but it's a nice shade and both Porsche and BMW have offered top models with gold wheels (CSL & GT3RS).
Anthracite is a safe option and also boring and "played out".
Then there's the red interior in my car. Gold wheels on a white car with red interior may be too much going on.
I'm not totally in love with either look, but don't see a better option.