??? "Life is short. Have an affair." Really? Really?
It's amazing to me the temerity, stupidity and cowardice of folks who deliberately break their marriage vows.
- Having an affair has always been accompanied by the risk that one gets caught doing so. Why is being at risk for exposure from one's cohort in crime -- willful adultery -- any different?
- Having an affair has always been an act of cowardice. What is not cowardly about promising to forsake all others (or whatever) and then not doing that and not having the integrity, the decency, to tell one's spouse, "Hey, look. I made a mistake when I agreed to just 'tap it' with you. I want some 'strange' from time to time, maybe even for a period of time. But I don't want to get divorced."? Don't people think they at least owe the person they wed, the person whom they claim to love oh so deeply, at least that much? No. Apparently 37 million identifiable men think lying is is the better approach!!! Really? Really? (Presumably something like 37 million people -- male or female, it doesn't really matter to me which -- also don't care much about integrity either. Are the partners in the affairs may be men or women, depending on what the cheaters are trying to "get with" when they cheat...is that site one way closeted gay men "get their groove on?" I don't know...I only have enough sense to know that they are gonna find a way to "get their groove on.")
- Thirty-seven MILLION men! Do you realize that's a bit more than 1/2 of the total male voter turnout in the last Presidential election! You cannot tell me that some (a lot even) of those men or didn't take a "on their high horses" position with regard to any number of high profile cheaters: Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Strom Thurmond, Mark Foley, John Edwards, Newt Gingrich, Robert Packwood, priests, Protestant church ministers and pastors galore (!), and more. It takes real gall to be a pot and call a kettle black.
Some readers here may feel compelled to play "devil's advocate" and say that I'm leaping to an unfair conclusion. I'm gonna tell you right now, I was not born yesterday and I am not by any stroke of the imagination jumping to any wrong conclusion. I'm jumping straight to the right conclusion. And I'm going to tell you why I know I am. I'm right because it's as plain as the nose on yours and my faces that if 1/2 of the voting age men in U.S. were to openly express so much as indifference on the matter of extra marital affairs, there would be nothing scandalous about having one. That's why. There'd be no nationally recognized pall over the lives and careers of people who have extramarital affairs.
I'm quick to say that I don't really care if a grown person has an affair. It's their business not mine, unless I'm a party to the affair. But, and this is important, doing so on the DL just doesn't sit right with me. I believe this above most things, and I can't think of situations where it doesn't apply: "own your shit!" I truly feel that if a man (or woman) is "man" enough to do a deed, then they can be "man" enough to say, "Yes, I did it. No, I didn't ask your permission and I didn't intend to. If and when I want your opinion, I'll ask for it. Now that you know, you know what your options are. Let me know which one you choose so we can both get on with living. Now get the eff up outta my business."
But you see, in U.S. we have over the past two score years created a culture of pansies and thin-skinned p*ssies if you ask me. There are, IMO, tens of millions of people, citizens, in the U.S. who what to present this "holier than thou" attitude, particularly concerning sex, but who are in fact no different then people anywhere in any time. I mean really. Is Janet Jackson's tit actually more disturbing, more troublesome to see, more likely to cause nightmares than is this image from
Bones?
Justin Timberlake doesn't appear too disturbed or embarrassed. He's not looking away, is he?
And don't even get me started on "wardrobe malfunction." My ass. Her corset cup fell off because her big tit stretched the hell out of that SOB and it couldn't take it any more. Then her tit bounced freely for all the world to see. Period. Call a spade a spade; that's what happened. You want to know what I thought when I saw it? I thought, "Well now...I guess her other tit isn't quite as big because it's still covered." That's truly the first thought that crossed my mind.
But I've now veered off point. In short, I just want to say, "America, grow up and grow a pair!" Grown men and women want some play and they both like some "strange" from time to time. The rest of the world knows this and accepts it, at least to the point that, say, an Italian President doesn't risk losing his job for having affairs. Hell, Prince effin' Charles married his "strange" and his former wife died with hers. The simple fact is that women like taking rides with powerful peen, and powerful peens like to go places. Heck, it's even more mundane than that, for 37 million men can't all be that powerful, except maybe in bed.
To the people who insist on having surreptitious affairs, I have only this to say. I think you're chickenshit as can be, but more importantly I think you're fools. If you don't want your "stuff" discovered, then don't tell anybody about it. "Anybody" includes the people who run websites like Ashely Madison. Duh.! Did you not learn as a child that you simply cannot say to other folks, "I'm gonna tell you this secret, but you have to promise not to tell anyone." Hell, you may as well say, "I'm gonna tell you something and I want you to tell everyone and pretend I don't know that you are doing it." As I said, grow the eff up!
All the best.
P.S.
No, I dont' have the first bit of sympathy for those 37 million people who's affairs may be exposed. Frankly, I think the hackers ought to just go on and release the names and get it over with. Maybe their doing so will allow Americans (maybe Canadians too) to have a mature and public conversation about that topic and other things sexual.